This post may not apply to everybody. Honestly, I’m writing this for myself just as much as anyone else (that’s true for all my posts, but this one especially) . I’m a huge daydreamer, my mind wanders off easily. I especially like thinking about the future- what type of jobs I could have, how many kids I want, what my house will look like, etc. The problem with this, though, is that it’s so easy to become fixated on one thing, or one specific plan for your life. I’m a big believer that everything happens for a reason, especially when things don’t work out the way you want, and that’s something important for us to consider. We might build up this amazing plan for our lives, but how likely is really to go without a hitch? Even if you don’t subscribe to the “reason for everything philosophy” it’s still something to consider.
For me there have been a lot of things in my life that didn’t end up the way I expected, but I found myself realizing that if I had I do over, I wouldn’t want it any different. There have been studies on this that show when people experience some sort of traumatic failure, a majority decide later on that they are better off because of it. I’m not necessarily saying go out and fail at something, but there may be something to be said for letting life have it’s way with you.
The last part of this I want to write about is related to my last post. It’s so easy to become distracted, future possibilities being one among many distractions. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received is “don’t always assume the good times are in the future.” This isn’t true all the time…there are definitely times we know are not “good” but I also hope that we never become so fixated on what’s ahead that we forget what’s great about now.